"Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up. If a guy punches you he likes you. Never try to trim your own bangs and someday you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. Every movie we see, every story we're told implores us to wait for it, the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule. But sometimes we're so focused on finding our happy ending we don't learn how to read the signs. How to tell from the ones who want us and the ones who don't, the ones who will stay and the ones who will leave. And maybe a happy ending doesn't include a guy, maybe... it's you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future. Maybe the happy ending is... just... moving on. Or maybe the happy ending is this, knowing after all the unreturned phone calls, broken-hearts, through the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment you never gave up hope."
- Gigi, He's Just Not That Into You
- Gigi, He's Just Not That Into You
I've been pondering this a lot recently. Girls have a tendency to let movies conquer their minds, the over analysis of love, how it can be applied to our lives, why it doesn't happen to us like it does in the movies (or television show), etc. In my case I can also apply it to music. Some songs, even artists, just get me feeling uplifted because of the thought of love, but then that wonderful high comes crashing down around me because it isn't as easy as the movies, or songs, or whatever, make it out to be. It's just like Gigi puts it, girls are taught that we will get that happy ending, and in the end, it's about not giving up hope, not what we get.
While it would be nice to be the exception, instead of the rule, we (girls) need to figure out that once we find that guy, whoever it may be, we are his exception to the rule. We also need to realize that the more we look for that guy, the less likely we are to find him. (DISCLAIMER: If you haven't seen HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU please don't read any further, because this may ruin part of the plot. If you don't intend on seeing it, read on, but you may be confused). Gigi, in the movie kept looking for Connor, then someone else. When we see Gigi stop looking and get the rest of her life in order, that's when she finds her real love, Alex. Going with this storyline, it goes against everything that girls are taught growing up. We need to look for love, we find it, it doesn't find us. However, I think we should all follow this example though, we should stop looking for love and let it find us because in the end it will happen whether we realize it or not.
Just some thoughts...Had to get them out of my head, mainly as a way for me to talk to myself and give myself advise. I'll be back soon though with some real words for everyone.
While it would be nice to be the exception, instead of the rule, we (girls) need to figure out that once we find that guy, whoever it may be, we are his exception to the rule. We also need to realize that the more we look for that guy, the less likely we are to find him. (DISCLAIMER: If you haven't seen HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU please don't read any further, because this may ruin part of the plot. If you don't intend on seeing it, read on, but you may be confused). Gigi, in the movie kept looking for Connor, then someone else. When we see Gigi stop looking and get the rest of her life in order, that's when she finds her real love, Alex. Going with this storyline, it goes against everything that girls are taught growing up. We need to look for love, we find it, it doesn't find us. However, I think we should all follow this example though, we should stop looking for love and let it find us because in the end it will happen whether we realize it or not.
Just some thoughts...Had to get them out of my head, mainly as a way for me to talk to myself and give myself advise. I'll be back soon though with some real words for everyone.
She is my life....in a movie version. (you know it's true) I mean think about it...my happy ending came when it was just me, on my own, picking up the pieces and starting over. And it has worked fairly well for me I'd say....
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